How To Tell if an Autistic Person Likes You - Dating An Autistic Series Im an autistic woman and everyone thinks I'm flirting with them.

MARGA:Thanks for broaching the subject. I don't get into romantic relationships because I don't know how to proceed. I had a boyfriend online. I thought he was my boyfriend because he expressed plans. It didn't bother me that he didn't ask me how I felt or wanted, since that's normal. At least I didn't feel pressured. But he asked me for money to spend Christmas break with a neurotypical girl. I never realized I was just like any other book on his shelf, but not for romance. End of story. I don't think I'll try again, not even online, because I hit an emotional slump that's still going on, almost four months later.

 

As an autistic woman, I’d say if we want to see you again, that’s a sign. Spending our time with you, even moving our routine around is a good sign. I’m also not the one to make the first move because of my fear of rejection. Also, I don’t know how to flirt so I try to be funny. . Unfortunately, that turns a lot of neurotypical dudes off. Guess they don’t like funny women. I also noticed they hate it when you show interest (which makes no sense). I guess they want women who hate them and pretend to have no personality. So I tend to assume most people won’t like me unless they tell me otherwise even when they pretend like they are interested in me. Neurotypicals often do the opposite of what they mean. They could smile but actually don’t like you. It’s very confusing and exhausting honestly.

Como persona autista, al principio, si me gustas, parecerá que no me interesas en absoluto. No te miraré a los ojos, miraré al suelo o a cualquier otro lugar. Me distraeré y me quedaré un poco lejos porque puedo sentir tu energía y estar demasiado cerca es demasiado. Me pongo muy nervioso y tengo una respuesta masiva del sistema nervioso. Después de un tiempo, tiendo a estar más comprometido físicamente, pero necesito sentirme seguro y cómodo para hacerlo, por lo que puede llevar un poco de tiempo. A veces no sé cómo 'coquetear' directamente, o cómo iniciar una conversación contigo, pero no porque no me gustes (al contrario). A veces, si realmente me gusta alguien, hay tanto que procesar que necesito dar un gran paso atrás y sentarme con mis propios sentimientos para procesar la intensidad de lo que siento. Entonces puedo dar un paso adelante. Cuando empiezo a ponerme más serio con alguien, es posible que esperes que quiera estar cerca de ti todo el tiempo, o que quiera estar contigo 247, pero este tipo de presión me desanima. Nunca he podido hacer codependencia, me obliga a enmascararme, lo que me lleva al resentimiento y al agotamiento total. No tengo lugar para enamorarme si no me dejas. Cuanto más me gusta alguien, más serio soy, más tiempo y espacio necesito para procesarlo. Porque se vuelve real y lo tomo en serio al tomar una decisión. Además, al ser autista, no puedo saber de inmediato o nunca si realmente le gusto a alguien, así que para poder comenzar el proceso de integrarte a mi vida, tengo que estar bastante seguro de que es mutuo, y eso puede llevar... un tiempo. A algún compañero autista alguien le dijo "realmente me gustas" en la cara y tú respondiste "¡lo mismo!". ¿Pero todavía no sabes si quieren decir amor, interesado, quiero tener una cita, sexual? A menos que alguien me lo explique, me sentaré allí, sin tener idea de si estás realmente interesado o no. Si amas a una persona autista, lo mejor que puedes hacer es darle espacio, tiempo y paciencia. Obtendrás lo mejor de nosotros si puedes darnos esas cosas. Sabemos que es difícil de entender, pero realmente nos preocupamos por usted, más de lo que siempre podemos mostrar o comunicar.

@herkcollins4263

My boyfriend has Asperger's Syndrome and has told me of the fact that it's hard to flat out lie and therefore I could trust him when he told me that he was falling in love with me. I am so in love with him and have the challenge of him not wanting me to post on his social media about our relationship, not even "Good morning babe" or "I love, have a good day". Not introducing me to his family and friends, though letting me know that they know about us, has also been an interesting thing to deal with. I've never been in love with anyone on the spectrum before and though it's so different, I love him so much that I am willing to wait until he feels like he is comfortable introducing me. I do notice that he asks my opinion a lot and can't always get his thoughts out without needing help to find the right word sometimes. We share a lot of the same interests and are even both October babies and Libras. We have so much in common that it seems like it's no coincidence that we met. Thanks for this video, it was quite helpful. I've been mistreated, used, and lied to in the past and have a hard time learning to trust because of it, so I was at first afraid I was seeing red flags when I couldn't post in a loving way on his wall or be introduced to his family and friends.

@mechaslav8520

I've found this whole kind of interaction so confusing and frightening that I've never managed to have a relationship. It's been a lonely life.

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